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Enabling Meaning and Purpose in the Lives of our Isolated Loved Ones
How can we help our loved ones experience meaning and purpose in their lives?Does having a disability, getting older, or losing cognitive skills automatically exclude the possibility of purpose in life? In my family, meaningful contribution is central to happiness.I believe it is for most people.Our son Nicholas is 25 and mostly bed-ridden due to severe cerebral palsy.He is non-speaking, but nevertheless communicates effectively with the combination of a few words, tongue clicks, hand gestures and in a pinch, a switch activated computer system (its slow and labor intensive).
Since Nick finished school, weve searched for how he might find a meaningful job.Hes tried selling on E-Bay (he still does that from time to time) and he writes a sportsblog(which he enjoys).But his recent foray into creating and managing sports betting pools is the magic bullet for meaning and purpose in Nicks life, currently.The sports addicted members of our family and best friends all participate in annual NHL (ice hockey) pools and currently, in a world cup soccer one as well.Nick is the commissioner and his role comes with weighty responsibilities.Prior to the season or tournament, Nick convenes all the participants for the player draft in his room.Pizza and beer are served and participants who live out of town join in via Skype.Lots of trash talking ensues as everyone picks their players and creates their own fantasy team.Nick decides how points will be awarded and over the course of the season, he sorts out problems, answers questions and at seasons end, grudgingly awards the grand prize to the winner.The betting pool is a source of purpose for Nicholas, but it has the added benefit of keeping friends and family socially engaged with Nick in a purposeful way.The guys in the pool all want to win!
My Mom craves meaning and purpose in her life too.A couple of weeks ago, she threw me a curve ball when she remarked, Ive got it in my craw that I want to get a job.This, from a feisty, but tired 92-year old who rarely has the energy to dress up in anything but a fancy nightgown most days.My sister and I put on our thinking caps.Knitting for premature babies perhaps?Then, I happened to see an article online about a seniors home in Chicago that paired up with an English language school in Sao Paolo, Brazil to have weekly English conversation practice sessions via skype.Watch the video its so deeply heart-warming.
Donna, your comment about an app reminded me about one place online that you might want to check out -Meetup.com- it's a way for people who have similar interests to get together. (NOT a dating service! LOL)
I haven't used Meetup myself, but I've talked with others who have and they love it. There's a fee to set up a group, but not to join or participate in a group. Most of the meetings are held in a public location, so I'm not sure how that would work for your mom. But it's worth checking out. Has anyone else here on ABCD in Action used Meetup.com?
Hi Deb, Thank you so much for your help on my first blog here at ABCD - I've been travelling and just got home, so I'm seeing it now. The second language meetups is a great idea for local neighborhoods - I tried to get something going for my Mom who is 92 and wanted to give it a go with someone wanting to improve their english, but it was difficult to locate someone (she lives in a different city from me). Perhaps there's an app waiting to be developed?
Love the idea about organizing and managing a league for fantasy sports teams. Also great idea about older adults providing opportunities for conversational English practice. This would work great in local neighborhoods and provide a great service to immigrants and foreign students.